Empowerment used to be a weird word for me. It stood for what I saw as weak, limp-wristed, feminine, self-help hype teachers, usually visible to me through cheesy, insipid memes that meant nothing to me. I’m a man, dangit, I don’t need none of that cheerleading stuff! I got a perfectly good, worn-in set of… Continue reading Honoring vs Empowering
Has anyone else heard from complementarians that it's not the husband's job to make his wife submit to him, that he's just to lead with following Christ and a godly wife will follow? A godly wife will decide what submission to her husband means. The husband doesn’t tell the wife how to submit, and the… Continue reading Focusing on Your Role is Not Enough
I’d like to talk today about one ramification of equality in marriage that may not come easily to many men coming out of a traditional gender role environment. I’ve certainly had to learn this lesson the hard way, and I’m not even going to pretend to have arrived at a state of enlightenment here – more like a daily war of attrition with laziness. I don’t want to project too much, so I’ll talk to myself here, and maybe folks can follow along if they see themselves in my monologue.